If you feel like everything’s out of your control, you can start to take control of certain areas of your life. Set yourself goals of where you want to be in 5 years time. Then what are you going to do to get there? What would you like to be doing this time next week? And what do you need to do to make that happen?

These could be physical goals, like losing a few pounds by working out and eating right, or mental goals, like letting yourself be angry for 10 minutes rather than beating yourself up. .

Be realistic with your goals, and how much you can/can’t change, and try to be specific/measurable – make it something you can see when you’ve achieved it, and whether you’re on track.

Stick your goals up on your wall, or somewhere you can look at them every day and check on your progress every day. It can be hugely rewarding to look back on how much you’ve achieved.

But here’s the important bit: don’t beat yourself up if you don’t achieve your goals when you wanted to. Just try again and give yourself smaller steps this time.

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